The tough task of reducing weight!

When I was growing up, I found that I was the only fat person living on the planet. Or maybe one in a thousand. This was the time I decided that to feel less awkward at public places there was a need to reduce weight. Lot of things tried. Lost hope. Gave up. Tried again and so on.

 As I grew up, people started getting fatter. I was the less uncommon person, with the one in a thousand changing to one in ten people. The realisation was comforting but it didn't dim my aim which I had set as a child. Not an easy thing to do, but not an impossible thing either. I have not achieved the target yet, but I will. One day for sure.

This journey is not as easy as teasing these fat people is for normal people. Lot of eforts.
Weight is completely opposite to money. Gaining is easy and losing is difficult.
There are many challenges which you face, which may make this journey longer.

The most common of the things is that you may end up losing hope that you ever will lose weight. It is not as easy as it sounds to be. Fat people often wish that it was as easy as eating what crave for like pizza, chocolates, etc. But the story is completely different.

The most crucial barrier in this journey is your mother. No denying that she will motivate you throughout, but she won't even realise that she is weakening your will to achieve what even she wants you to achieve.

Take for an instance that you plan to go on a diet plan. Some plan where you are supposed to eat less, and literally starve. You mom feel overflow of her motherhood feelings and end up saying things like;

"Aaj toh Sunday hai, ek din ka break toh chalta hai. Kuch nahi hoga. Le chicken kha"

"Arrey idli me kuch fattening nahi hota. Ye sab chalta hai"

"Kitna weak lag raha hai. Abhi ek meal kar ache se, baad me wapas diet kar lena"

Little does she knows that what she is doing is just making your curbed cravings to surface up. To make to lose control of your will.
All the "chalta hai" eventually results in making a satyanash of all your plans, just that one meal.
And then it is again back to normal, how it was.

This is the time when I look at people who are thin and eat a lot. I wonder where does all the food go. How don't they put on weight. Times when I wish I was like them and wonder whether they knew how lucky they are.

Anyways, my life is still on that road; the destination still to be reached. And I better keep walking, or rather running :P

Virat Kohli and IPL so far!

IPL every year comes out with some controversies. This year has to be the one which can be focused on one player, Virat Kohli.
People say he is young and thus the aggression is justified. But they forget that he is not the only one who is of that age in the current scenario and indeed not the only one who has played cricket at this age.

The recent controversy is that of him being booed at the Wankhede during the match presentation ceremony. Not saying that what the crowd did was right, but the reactions of Mr. Captain Next were definitely wrong.

"They are forgetting that even I play for India"

Those words have now seriously backfired against him. Not taking incidences of the past, but of this years' IPL itself.

What he said at Wankhede was on 27th April 2013.

Now an incident which happened on 11th April 2013;

Did he forget there that Gautam Gambhir plays for India as well. And also for Delhi, their Ranji side.

Unaware of things?

Now another incident, just two days after the Kohli-Gambhir spat.

The one on 13th April 2013 in Chennai.

What the people in the crowd did wasn't right. But what Virat did was?

Don't the people say that if you are a celebrity many people watch you, look upto you and try to immitate you.

This is what he is trying his young budding cricket fans to be like?

This post is not a Virat Kohli Hate post, but the things he says, the way he behaves isn't acceptable and then the people who try to justify this aren't right either.

It is quite possible that he would be the future captain of the Indian Cricket Team, so this is the person who would represent our country in Cricket in front of media?

Somewhere changes are just necessary, here is one such case.

I am lucky!

I always do come across people who are depressed with their lives just because of some temporary problems which can be solved over some period of time. They curse themselves and their life as being the worst. Disrespecting this amazing present called "life".

This is mainly because of two different approaches in life. One is to compare your life with the ones which are less privileged than you; i.e. looking down just to not get out of balance. And the other approach is to compare your life with the highly privileged people; i.i looking at the top and having a desire to succeed but at the same time having a risk of falling down.
Either of the two approaches are bad.
People mostly have the second approach. Compare with people who are in a better position than them. Wanting to be like them. Till this time it is all good, the want stage. Every good thing has a counter bad effect. The one with this is that people start comparing their life with them, feel bad about themselves. When the fact remains that there is actually nothing to feel bad about. You are almost as lucky as the majority of the people.

Everyday, while standing in the balcony, I see a couple walk road down the road. A normal couple going to work to earn a living. The only difference being that they hold a stick in their hand because they are visually challenged. Having sympathy for them is one thing, learning from them is one thing. Not that they might not have the usual daily problems like you do, but they still choose to respect life and make the full out of it. It is better if you take inspiration from these people as to how to live life rather than being sympathetic towards their problems.

Then there is this boy, a couple of years younger to me. His life and daily schedule is noway near to yours, your friends or to the life you want because of which you hate your life. Getting up at 4 am; washing some cars in society; attending college at 9 am; coming back at 3 pm; working from 5pm to 11 pm as a delivery boy at a hotel. Is your life as difficult as his for you to be depressed about yours?

You have a bed to sleep, a mobile talk to talk to people, a dinning table to eat your food, money to travel around the city, are educated to read this. Some people don't have even a single thing out of the list.

You have to start valuing your life. It is not that you are not lucky. People have to stop hating their life just because someone has a better life than theirs'.
Be motivated by looking up to top businessmen and successful people. But also at the same time be inspired from the people who are facing bigger problems in life than you.
You are not at the first point. Say in your mind "I am lucky!" and you will automatically know why.
Learn to be happy with what you have even if you are not satisfied with it.

People and Places They Want To Settle In

The greatest mysteries about "How to judge a person" gets simplified once you learn to observe the details and apply some logic to your observations.
The characteristic traits of a person can be known by simple questions. There is no need to ask the personal questions when you can get your answers via indirect and less personal questions.
One such is "Where do you want to settle after your retirement?"
Ask yourself this question and keep it to yourself for the time being.

The basis of answering this question depends on the past of the person. The things missing in his or her past, or the things of the past which he or she likes. The background of the question is the person's past and you could know some bits of it by this simple indirect question.

There can be a wide variety of answers and every answer means something; tells you a different story.

• The same city where one is staying:
  It means that the person is satisfied with his life. He has got almost everything he had wished for and believe that the city will give him everything he wishes for in future as well. The person will be of the "happy" types. Happy with life and things around him
  
• Same country, different city/place:
  It means that the person is very much satisfied. The change in city could be due to reasons such as friends, family, more opportunity of success, etc. These will also be the happy people with a smile on their face.
  
• USA:
  The person has seen poverty and also has had experiences with money in his hands. He knows the value of money and the power which comes with it. The person will be greedy for more money; will do anything for it. Would be willing to die in die. Be friends with these people, not business partners.
  
• European Countries:
  The people with such desires are the ones who are greatly influenced by other people, by the things they see in movies and fiction. They dream about money, like the previous case. But the distinguishing factor is their want for a ravish lifestyle.
  
• Australia, New Zealand and other Tourist destinations:
  These are the people who have seen a lot of their acquaintances go for vacations and trips. They have that urge to travel but can't due to varied reasons. They want to fulfill the latter part of their life  completing the traveling desires of their past.
  
• Beaches. Like Goa, Hawaii:
  Such people are free thinkers. They won't listen to anyone and do as they want to. Might have had a rough past. These people will be quarrelsome so it would be better to maintain a certain distance from them.
  
• Mountainous Regions:
  These people are the "sad" types who successfully show that they are not so. Will seem to enjoy life when actually there is a turmoil within them. These people are the ones who think they have seen enough problems in life and would love to go away from everything. Fresh air around them. A retired life with no problem.

All the above mentioned things are hypothesis, which the writer feels are 95% true (5% because everything has faults).
It can always be tested if you want to.

 

Life On Twitter

Life in general starts with the Birth and ends with the Death. In between is what you do; which is called 'living'.

Almost everything you do has a start and an end. Similarly is your life on Twitter. The is a logical birth, but there is no logical end. The life on Twitter is mortal (only if it doesn't get the better of you and you deactivate the account in the middle stages). You can live a mortal life on Twitter, as long as you are alive, or maybe after that as well because of a new software which would tweet for you even after you die (Ref:- http://rt.com/news/twitter-dead-network-liveson-559/ )


Stages Of Your Life On Twitter:

• Birth : Creating an account
• Then you follow all the celebrities (movie stars, sports person)
• Phase where you only use the Reply option
• After you get a hang of thing, you start replying to the celebrities you followed
• You get no replies, you unfollow all celebrities and follow other people who also used to reply to those celebrities
• You interact with them. Reply after reply.
• Phase where you Tweet and Reply
• You realize that you can copy some of your friend's Facebook status messages and no need to initialize a conversation with girls (2nd part is for the males of Twitter)
• You continue doing the same, Tweet and Reply
• You come across the so called Twitter Celebs (For more information on who they are, see http://rishabhkarnik.blogspot.in/2012/10/twitter-celebs.html ) and try to imitate them because they seem "cool" (Get attention from all the people)
• Phase where you develop into a Twitter Celeb
• You change your style. You Tweet more and Reply less
• You somehow find replying to others as useless and only Tweet
• You become a Twitter Celeb and then you will have your Dream Run on Twitter

There may be stages of a life on Twitter, but there is one thing which is common in all the stages and that is enlarging the DPs and looking closely on every DP change.

This is what every person on Twitter goes through, they are just at different stages on this life of theirs.

Try And Try Till You Succeed?

The life of a every person consists of a stage when they are taught stories which have a moral. And it doesn't end there. The moral of the stories are said to be very important and must be implemented in your life. Many of those stories are told by your mother in the bedtime stories.
The mindset of every child is to consider everything said by his or her mother and school teacher to be true. So we grow with these morals by implementing them in our lives with an attempt to make our life better. This doesn't end in your childhood. No matter how old you get, you will always remember them and try  and stick to what it says to be done.

One such moral of the story is "Try and try, till you succeed". And many, or all, will remember the story of King Bruce and The Spider. King Bruce running away from the battle field and hides in a cave. There he sees a spider trying to reach the roof. Failing everytime, but still trying again and again. The king learns his lesson and goes back to the battle field and wins the war.
Short and sweet. Good during the times when you really hadn't seen the so called "dangerous" outside world. But does this hold true in the current time? In this current age?

Life is not as heroic as it is shown in novels and movies. We start off with thinking that we are someone is far more better than the majority of people i this world. With the passage of time, you find yourself as one in the crowd of people who think just like you. But is there room for so many 'heroes'? Then suddenly everyone in the crowd realise that they are just another brick in the wall, not anything special.
Everyone has special abilities and expertise. But in the battle of survival we take the route which is pretty standard in stabilizing your life. But still you keep trying. Keep failing, think about the moral of that story you heard in your childhood and get back up to do the same thing. But is all this really worth your effort?

In this current age, there are so many people and so many fields in which you could excel that you don't really need to do the standard things. But there is that fear of whether you fail in that too. But the fact of the matter is that you have to try in things where you are good at, not at something just because it was thought to be beneficial.
The competition in today's time is so intense that you will be left behind in something to people who really have an interest in that thing. So why waste your time at something just to show your character?
I remember the scene from 3 Idiots where Amir Khan says that if Lata Mangeshkar was to learn to play cricket and Sachin Tendulkar was meant to learn singing then would they have succeeded in those professions as they have done in their current respective professions?


If you are good at something then you will know it. Your inner feeling will give you satisfaction and happiness out of it. When you know that thing is the one, only then should you take the inspiration from the spider's tale and work till you succeed.

The Try And Try Till You Succeed doesn't hold true everytime. There will be special occasions when you will have to implement it.

Does SMS Language really saves time?

Languages are means of expression; to express what you want to convey.
There are different languages in the world, and people use the one to which they are comfortable with, the one which would convey their message in the most efficient manner.

The English language is found to have changed. From the Shakespeare times to the ones we all grew up with, in school; the modern English language.

Then suddenly there was a newer version of English language: The SMS Language or The SMS Lingo.

When it was new to the world, people found it difficult to understand. With the passage of time, the language got more and more understandable but never completely understandable. Because almost everyday a new abbreviation for a phrase is created.  Like recently I came across SUTRAL. I didn't know what it stands for and felt weird to ask what it means because then people say "You don't know this?! In which world are you living?" So to save myself from embarrassment I didn't reply to the message.

The main reason why people say they use this language is they that it saves time. But does it actually save time?

Let's look at  more example, consider the reader to be a novice in this language as he was not used to chatting via messages earlier;
"R u cmng 2nt? If no den do kal n tel meh"
(One  more factor here is Meh instead of Me. This is the whole new "cool" thing. You can act cool by writing such words. Keep this thing aside now for we are concentrating on time factor)
A per son reading this will definitely need more time than reading " Are you coming tonight? If no then call and tell me"

Now consider the example I mentioned above, SUTRAL. The sender might have saved a lot of time by typing just those 6 letters. The receiver on the other hand might have spent almost 5 complete minutes on figuring out what it actually means, when it simply could mean as a standard LOL.
So now has the SMS language saved time?


Frankly, it hasn't. The main problem behind the misconception that "SMS Language saves time" is that people consider as a information transmission is only sending a message. It saves time in that segment of the transmission process. But the information transmission process is completed when the person receiving the information understand the information completely.

So it can be safely concluded that using the SMS language doesn't save time. Also it looks disgusting.
It's time people start respecting English language and take some efforts to write proper words to express themselves.